When someone falls in love, the same areas of his/her brain affected by alcohol or drugs like cocaine are activated. They stimulate the part of our brain that seeks rewards. And we become, in a way, addicted to those feelings.
Thus when someone falls out of love – or when we break up with someone we’re still in love with – the effects can be as drastic as suddenly giving up a substance we’re addicted to. The body’s stress response is a normal reaction that usually carries us through crises or difficult times. However, for some people, the response to extreme stress can actually harm our heart health.
Medical professionals are becoming increasingly aware of a condition called broken heart syndrome, or stress-induced cardiomyopathy, which is often brought on by emotional or physical trauma, and tends to mimic a heart attack. Essentially, researchers have found that our hearts really can “break” when we are grieving or experiencing stressful life events.
While broken heart syndrome occurs in both men and women, it is most common in post-menopausal women. The syndrome is not a heart attack, but it produces symptoms similar to one. It typically resolves without lasting damage, and is fatal only in rare cases.
There’s no question that breakups can be painful, and that it’s difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. Here is some of expart advice for healing the heartbreak:
- In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.
- Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.
- Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like “nightmare,” “terrible,” and “horrible,” you’re bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do.
- Sometimes you can’t get over being hurt until you know you’ve been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.
- Don’t embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you’ll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex’s house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.
- Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there’s a risk. Don’t let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing.
Source: Internet